My Poems : Culprit

Culprit 

My Poems : Soldiers of Peace

Soldiers of Peace

My Expressions : Soft violence

Soft violence 

A slap, a punch,  or a  fisticuff is not a common site among educated people. However education does not necessarily inculcate a sense of poise and respect in all for others.The surge of inner rage in people manifest itself in the form of soft violence.  This soft violence carried out in subtle manner hurt the other person even more than the physical violence. Some such instances of soft violence commonly seen are :

1. Ignoring one's presence selectively.
2. Not greeting a person selectively.
3. Not inviting someone while all else are invited.
4. Giving dull, subdued and discouraging response to one's greetings.
5. Refusing someone's invitation  with discourtsey.
6. Discussing financial gains loudly in front of a relatively less well off person.
7. Not answering one's call or message despite being well known and related.
8. Talking over and keep talking without giving chance to other person to speak.
9. Discouraging a talented or capable person by impeding his/ her progress selectively.


Especially with elderly and senior people, soft violence is seen being committed by younger ones in following all so many ways:

1. Giving orders to them.
2. Making them / seeing them doing chores without the keenness to help or takeover from them.
3. Asking them to pick up articles to carry while traveling particularly and otherwise too.
4. Disappearing from the scene under some pretext at the time of work.
5. Showing  leisure or entertainment time to be more important than their even serious work.
6. Not asking their well being or truly taking full responsibility of their well being.
7. Leaving behind work for them and thus exploiting their orderliness to get things done.
8. Asking them for money instead of supporting them.
9. Not offering them food first.
10. Not leaving seat for them rather taking it keeping them standing.
11. Not giving passage to them first.
12. Belittling their age and physical limitations.
13. Talking to people elder in age in a mockingly patronizing manner. 


Soft violence against children may take the following forms:

1. Showing them down repeatedly for their mistakes.
2. Not giving credit to them for their accomplishments or talents.
3. Comparing them with other children.
4. Dampening their enthusiasm with cold responses.
5. Depriving them of the love, care and protective guidance.
6. Keep rebuking them for trivial matters.
7. Imposing choices upon them all the time.

Soft violence leaves scars deep in the psyche. Soft violence is unknowingly and inadvertently committed.

Watch out!! Do you commit soft violence too.

(C) Manish 'pakhi'

My Poem: एक असमर्थ की पदचाप

एक असमर्थ की पदचाप

My Poems: Transcend

Transcend

My Poems : Faith

Faith

My Poems : इंतिज़ार

इंतिज़ार

My Expressions : Uncertainty

Uncertainty

One of the things we need to cope in life with, is uncertainty. Uncertainty implies possibility of materialization of any of the favorable or unfavorable outcomes that exist for a given a situation. Since each such outcome has a corresponding impact on our life in a favorable or unfavorable manner,  uncertainty leads many of us to anxiety. 

The law of entropy pulls everything in the direction of disorder. Hence, to keep things in order we have to make effort which in turn means we spend energy to make the outcome favorable for us. The moment we decide on one outcome as our goal, the remaining possibilities become the part of disorder with respect to the chosen goal. The law of entropy applies and the shift towards disorder starts in a natural universal manner. This shifts makes the possibility of materialization of any of the undesired outcomes stronger.

This phenomenon is universal, spontaneous and inevitable. 

It is therefore futile to wish that the universal law of increasing entropy shall not operate on our given situation and  things shall remain perfect in equilibrium endlessly without making any efforts. Infact, the moment we decide upon a goal, we need to apply energy and effort to keep the entropy shift towards the disorderliness at bay. The more exclusive the goal, the greater is the entropy and hence greater is the  effort required to hold on to the desired outcome. 

It is choices between order and disorder. There are some who accept  disorder in their own lives and in their surroundings. Such people remain victims of uncertainty with a deep complacent sense of unawareness and unknowing. They find certainty in the uncertainty itself with ever shifting goals and endless adjustments without ever creating any value. Typically, such people are characterized by a sense of amazement with the disorderliness of change. 

There are others who choose order. They give there energy in maintaing balance, equilibrium and stability to a framework that sustains a goal, a value, a purpose or a mission. They exert themselves to constantly challenge the disorder. In the process they create value. They drive change to synthesize by putting in energy and efforts rather than becoming a casual observer of a disintegrating shift - entropy.

If we understand this principal, it becomes clear to us as to why there is hard work, effort, energy, exertion, endurance, challenge and perseverance required to achieve something of substance and sustain it.

It is the force of universal entropy and our enthalpy that govern our thermodynamics - the heat maps and energy shifts. 

Entropy : an annihilating undercurrent, an unseen reality and an awareness so thoroughly skipped by most of us!!

(C) Manish 'pakhi'

My Poems : Rope

Rope

In everyday life, we find such relationships that tests our endurance. These are the people with whom we have a karmic relationship from our previous life times.
People in these relationship prolong the toxicity by living in a quid pro quo or a tug of war and thus the tussle never ends,

But when one person drops his or her side of the rope by forgiving the other person and by stopping retaliation,  the power struggle stops. The karma of the toxic relationship breaks...

Drop the rope!!

My Poems : Judgement

Judgement

My Poems : लम्हे

लम्हे

My Poems : तजुर्बात

तजुर्बात

My Poems : अनदेखा

अनदेखा

My Poems : जुड़ाव

जुड़ाव

My Poems : गुरुर

गुरुर

My Poems : हौसला

हौसला

My Expressions : Arrogance

Arrogance 

Arrogant

 US ​ /ˈær·ə·ɡənt/

​proud in an unpleasant way and behaving as if you are better or more important than other people

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To begin with, a few quotes on arrogance.....

“Arrogance is a self-defense tactic to disguise insecurities.”

CAROLL MICHELS, How to Survive and Prosper as an Artist

“Arrogance is a veneer -- a thin covering of excuses hiding deep performance deficiencies.”

BOB LEWIS, "The Seven Deadly Sins of Information Systems", InfoWorld, Apr. 20, 1998

“The arrogance of some people makes even their virtues appear vices.”

BOUHOURS, attributed, Day's Collacon

“Because arrogance is born in personal vanity, arrogant people are driven without mercy. They can never get enough power to fill the soul's needs or enough respect to overcome the fear that they deserve less than they are getting.”

LEWIS B. SMEDES, Love Within Limits

Arrogance is the mask  for  lack of virtues . Virtuous people have humility, sincerity and respect for others. Arrogant people are easily identified by the following display of behavior:

-          They try to throw an larger than life image .
-          They make a false show of knowledge.
-          They claim the good results for themselves and dump bad results on others.
-          Their way of talking is patronizing, even to their seniors or elders.
-          They are found busy talking about their little achievements in a big way  everywhere.
-          They disrespect others but wants respect for themselves.
-          They project their connection to big names.
-          They reject good suggestions just because it conflicts with their ego.
-          They bring down the performance of a team.
-          They try to embarrass  people  by crossing boundaries of permissible behavior.
-           They try to bring your  reputation down in a wicked and wretched manner if you resist bullying.
-          They are constantly looking for audience.
-          Most of them boss over their parents because parents are loving and caring.
-        They always find someone to do their job. 

-     They do not take responsibility but  pretend to do so and claim so even louder.

Intrinsically, arrogant people are very insecure from inside and this insecurity drives their behavior to be so extreme as to be the center of their attention themselves. 

Most arrogant people try to hide behind moral high grounds. Their lack of humility is appalling.

Humans need to grow intellectually.

Arrogance is the sign of intellectual bankruptcy!!

By -

Manish ‘ Pakhi’   

My Poems : Catacomb

Catacomb

My Poems :

बदहवास

Notes n Beats : Schicksals-Sinfonie (symphony of destiny) : " Fate" - Beethoven

Schicksals-Sinfonie (symphony of destiny) 

 " Fate" - Beethoven

Daisaku Ikeda  is a Buddhist philosopher, educator, author, nuclear disarmament advocate and the founding president of the Soka Gakkai International (SGI), the world's largest Buddhist lay organization with approximately 12 million practitioners in 192 countries and territories.

Ikeda's sense of the great power of culture and the arts to uplift and assuage people would later become an underlying current in his philosophy of and activism for peace. It was during the turbulent period of his youth that this sensibility was forged.

Ikeda suffered throughout his youth from tuberculosis, a deadly disease at the time. He writes fondly of his memories of listening, exhausted from work and illness, to Beethoven's Fifth Symphony, known as the "Destiny" or "Fate" symphony. "As I sat in the middle of my tiny apartment, with the stirring resonance of that great work filling the room, I felt my blood race and dance with joy . . . a powerful courage resurged in my heart."

This Symphony is another Beethoven's favourite of mine after "Ode to Joy".